The girl in tight shoe

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Hey , Can i Borrow You For A Sec ?!!

Be yourself. Be yourself . Be yourself .

This is usually the answer to  most of our inquires. Yet those who gave this advice cant explain further how to actually be oneself.

Years ago i tried to follow that piece of advice and go find myself. That was in the midst of my rebellious teenage years , so finding myself consisted mainly of too much loud music , piercing and saying no to any order. Now that my mind has changed abit , i don’t think that that was the correct road to being me. But the mystery yet continue , how can anyone be oneself.

Being oneself turned actually to be the easiest thing to do. I can almost hear some of you saying how. The answer is simple enough.

” throw away your mask  ”

”huuuh! mask ! what mask! ” . The mask here , dear readers, is the one we unconsciously wear while socializing with most of the people in our lives. If you are not sure if you actually have a mask , then ask yourself this simple question, ” do i act differently with some people ? do i laugh and act more freely with my best friend while i change to uptight with others ?”. If the answer is yes , then i am afraid that you aint free of your mask yet.

How to find that little man inside may be different from person to another because at the end we are not the same. Yet there’s general tips that might help set you on the path…

  • understanding why do you pretend might help. If it is certain people that pull you down , step away from those and make friends that appreciate you as you are.
  • set your own style. Most of us are confined by social standards like you have to wear this to be cool or talk this way to make friends.No , being cool and popular is nice but ,believe me ,you wouldnt enjoy it  if you are not comfortable with what you do. Enjoy being different.
  • be your own man. While some of us find taking decisions is hard but no escape it is necessary.Taking advice from your close friends and family , and sometimes being weak and leaning on somebody’s shoulder is quite understandable , we are only humans after all. But the final decision should always be yours , its only you who will be facing the consequences.
  • the last tip here , is follow your own heart. I know it is corny , but actually it is the most important here. Inside that heart of yours is the true version of yourself that most of us ignore it and forget to take its advice. So take your heart seriously and have faith in it , it might save you trouble some day.

“There is but one cause of failure and that is
a man’s lack of faith in his true self.”

~ William James 

The liberation of that mask is a long self discovery journey that one day all of us has to go through , yet the people around might not understand what are you doing or why you are doing this but dont give up because they dont matter , you do.

The girl in tight shoe.


10 comments on “Hey , Can i Borrow You For A Sec ?!!

  1. sugarcoatedangel
    July 5, 2012

    So true, the liberation of that mask is indeed what we all need !

    • fatma in tight shoe
      July 5, 2012

      Yes , it is a very important thing. Hopefully , this helped you to start the liberation.

  2. mathewpaulk
    July 5, 2012

    really liked this…most people while socializing try to act so cool and imitate someone or the other and end up looking like a douche bag…not being yourself and trying to be someone else is just plain ass wannabe and pathetic, don’t you think

    • fatma in tight shoe
      July 5, 2012

      Yes , I totally agree. Also , aside from looking bad and pathetic , you will won’t have the satisfaction and comfort in your life.
      And thank you for sharing your views , hopefully this might be of help. 😀

  3. evilnymphstuff
    July 5, 2012

    Finding ourselves is I believe the most difficult yet most desired goal in life. I would be so relieved to finally be able to throw away my mask, but it’s never so easy. Thanks for sharing the tips, and I totally agree with following our hearts… we should live not to please others but to enjoy ourselves 🙂

    • fatma in tight shoe
      July 5, 2012

      I agree with your way of thinking thou if you believe you should get rid of your mask , then just do it. Believe me without the mask , you will feel lighter and more people will be attracted to your inner glow.

  4. natashabriana
    July 6, 2012

    Be your own man. Thank you, “But the final decision should always be yours , its only you who will be facing the consequences,” this is exactly what I needed to hear or read rather. I’ve been at war with myself and this is the verification that I needed. I’m not at war with myself- I’m at war with what I think other people will think. But you’re absolutely correct. It’s me that will be left to pick up the peices and just me to deal with the consequences (both good and bad).

    • fatma in tight shoe
      July 6, 2012

      you are really welcome , i am really glad i said something that touched you.
      yes , i agree .Both sides good and bad , it will be only you handling them but remember even the bad will taste bittersweet not sour because you will still have some satisfaction of being in control of your life.

  5. livepipes
    July 6, 2012

    Reblogged this on LIVEPIPES.

  6. ronaldagak
    July 6, 2012

    Reblogged this on Ronald Agak.

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